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FOR People with or without  Goodwill, as we grieve our losses, restore national and international safety, rebuild our lives, homes, cities and the world with greater peace and rededicate our lives with compassion, team spirit and inner freedom;

FOR The sick and needy known to us; the victims of terrorism and wars, those affected by natural disasters and those for whom no one prays;

FOR all the faithful departed: Through the mercy of God, may their souls rest in peace. Amen.

FOR the FAITHFUL who along with Fr. Coelho participated or will participate in the rituals and events in the locations below.




2018/10/06 A Catholic Nuptial Celebration in Sonoma, CA - KATHERINE CALVERT & BRADLEY LOGAN

2018/05/19 A Catholic Nuptial Celebration in Salinas, CA - RUBY HERNANDEZ & CHRISTOPHER PEREZ





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Part I. Jewish Naming Ceremony

On altar: simple white cloth, Torah or Old Testament. Father comes forward holding Child in his arms. Mother, already standing at side of altar then reads:

A reading from the prophet Ezekiel:
Thus says the Lord God: I will take you away from among the nations, gather you from all the foreign lands, and bring you back to your own land. I will sprinkle clean water upon you. I will refresh your heart and enhance the spirit within you, enlivening your natural hearts. I will put my spirit within you and make you live by my statues, careful to observe my decrees. You shall live in the land I have given your fathers; you shall be my people, and I will be your God.

[Priest to Father, with Mother standing at Father's side:] And what is to be the name of this child?

[Father with child turns with Mother, faces family and friends and says:] The name of our child is _______.

Father with child and Mother turn so as to face each other.
[Priest with arms raised in blessing prays:] Our God and God of our fathers, preserve this child to his/her mother and to his/her father, and let his/her name be called Child son of Mother and Father. As it is written, "Let thy father and thy mother rejoice, and let her that bore thee be glad."

[Family and friends gather around parents and child and with arms raised in blessing as priest says:] Creator of the Universe! May it be Thy will, that this be regarded, accounted and accepted as that Child's heart be wise and open for Thy holy Land, like the opening of a hall, that he/she may learn and teach, keep and fulfill Thy laws. This little child Child, may he/she become great, loving, generous, and kind and succeed at all he/she sincerely sets out to achieve.
[Everyone present then says together:] With the sanction of Thy Law, pure and clear, which Moses the servant of the Lord commanded us to be a heritage, we give You thanks: Blessed be the Lord.

[The Priest places his hand on child's head, gives the Blessing:] God make you as Ephraim and Manasseh. The Lord bless you and keep you: the Lord make his face shine upon you, and be gracious unto you: the Lord turn his face unto you, and give you peace. For length of days, and years of life and peace shall they add to you. The Lord shall guard you from all evil; he shall guard thy soul.
Everyone: Amen.

[Priest then adds:] May the All-merciful bless Mother and Father, may they be worthy to raise Child, to initiate him/her in the precepts of the Law of Compassion, and train him/her in wisdom. May the Lord his/her God be with him/her.
Everyone: Amen.


II. Christian Baptism

On altar, Bible, unlit baptismal candle, white garment, oil stocks, large bowl, two hand towels. At side: lit candle. Father with child and Mother come forward with Godmother at Mother's outside and Godfather to Father's outside.

New Testament Reading (1 Cor 12, 12-13): (Reader #1)
A reading from the first letter of Paul to the Corinthians : The body is one and has many members, but all the members, many though they are, are one body; and so it is with Christ. It was in one Spirit that all of us, whether Jew or Greek, slave or free, were baptized into one body. All of us have been given to drink of the one Spirit. This is the word of the Lord.
Everyone: Thanks be to God.

Responsorial Psalm: Reader 2:
Please repeat after me: Come to him and receive his light!
R. Come to him and receive his light! I will bless the Lord at all times;      his praise shall be ever in my mouth. Let my soul glory in the Lord; the lowly will hear me and be glad.
R. Come to him and receive his light!
Look to him that you may be radiant with joy, and your faces may not blush with shame. Taste and see how good the Lord is; happy the person who takes refuge in him.
R. Come to him and receive his light!

Priest: May the Lord be with you.
People: And with your spirit.
Priest: A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew.
People: Glory be to you, O Lord.
Priest: One of the Pharisees, a lawyer, in an attempt to trip Jesus up asked him, "Teacher, which commandment of the law is the greatest." Jesus said to him:
"You shall love the Lord you God with your whole heart, with your whole soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and first commandment. The second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments the whole is based, and the law of the prophets as well."
This is the Gospel of the Lord.
Everyone: Praise be to you Lord Jesus Christ

A reading from the Book of the Essenes:
Blessed is the child of light who is pure in heart,
for that person shall see God. For as the heavenly Father has given you his Holy Spirit, and your earthly mother has given you her holy body, so shall you give love to all your brothers and sisters. And your true brothers and sisters are those who do the will of your heavenly Father and your earthly mother. Let your love be as the Sun which shines on all the creatures of the earth, and does not favor one blade of grass for another. And this love shall flow as a fountain from person to person,
and as it is spent so shall it be replenished. For love is eternal. Love is stronger than the currents of deep waters. Love is stronger than death. And if human beings have not love, they build walls between themselves And the creatures of the earth.  Amen.


A. Reception

Priest to Parents: What do you ask of God's Church for this Child?
Parents respond: Baptism.

Priest: You have asked to have your child baptized. In doing so you are accepting the responsibility of educating him/her in the practice of the law of compassion. It will be your duty to bring him/her up to keep God's commandments –specifically, to love God and neighbor. Do you understand what you are undertaking?
Parents: We do.

Priest to Godparents:
Are you ready to help the parents of this child, Child, in their duty as compassionate parents?
Godparents: We are.

Father gives Godmother Child, Godparents stand together, parents step to side.


B. Intercessions

Priest: My brothers and sisters, let us ask the Lord to look lovingly on this child who is to be baptized, on his/her parents and Godparents, and all who live the law of compassion.
Lord, by your compassion, bathe this child in light, give him/her the new life of baptism and welcome him/her as your child and an heir of Heaven.
Everyone: Lord, hear our prayer.

Priest: Lord, by the light of compassion lead him/her to the joys of your kingdom.
Everyone: Lord, hear our prayer.

Priest: May the lives of his/her parents and Godparents be examples of compassionate love to inspire this child.
Everyone: Lord, hear our prayer.

C. Cleansing and First Anointing

Priest: Almighty and ever living God, we pray for this child: set him/her free from delusion and make him/er a temple of your glory and send your Holy Spirit to dwell with him/her. We ask this in the name of Compassionate Love.
Everyone: Amen.
Priest anoints Child with Oil of Catechumens. Priest places his hand on child.


D. Celebration of Sacrament

Priest: My sisters and brothers, we now ask God to give this child new life in abundance through water and the Holy Spirit.

Priest then blesses the baptismal water. With hands joined, he prays the following:
Father, you give us grace through sacramental signs, which tell us of the wonders of your unseen power. In baptism we use your gift of water, which you have made a rich symbol of the grace you give us in this sacrament. At the very dawn of creation your Spirit breathed on the waters, making them the wellspring of holiness.
The waters of the great flood you made a sign of the waters of baptism, that made an end of delusion and a new beginning of goodness. Through the waters of the Red Sea you led Israel out of slavery, to be an image of God's holy people, set free from delusion by baptism, In the waters of the Jordan your Son was baptized by John and anointed with the Spirit. After his resurrection he hold his disciples: "Go out and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit." By the power of the Spirit give to the water of this font the grace of your Son. You created humans in your own likeness: cleanse them from delusion in a new birth of innocence by water and the Spirit. [Priest lowers Easter Candle into water three times as he continues:] We ask you, Father, with your Son to send the Holy Spirit upon the waters of this font. [Priest holds the candle in the water:] May all who are with the Lord rise also with him to newness of life.
Everyone. Amen. [As candle is taken out of water, everyone says:] Springs of water, bless the Lord. Give him glory and praise forever.


E. Renunciation of Delusion and Profession of Faith:

Priest asks Godparents and parents:
Mother and Father, Godmother and Godfather: you have come here to present this child for baptism. By water and the Holy Spirit he/she is to receive the gift of spiritual life from God, who is love. On your part, you must make it your constant care to bring Child up in the practice of compassion. See that the divine life which God gives him/her grows always stronger in his/her heart. If your compassion makes you ready to accept this responsibility, renew now the vows of your own baptism. Do you reject delusions, false beliefs, remembering instead your own true nature as a child of God?
Godparents/parents together: I do.

Priest: Do you reject illusions, false perceptions, remembering instead that you are the creator of your own perceptions being a child of God?
Godparents/parents together: I do.

Priest: Do you reject allusion, false stories about yourself, remembering instead the absolute reality of your natural love and compassion as a child of God?
Godparents/parents together: I do.


F. Baptism

Priest to

Is it your will that Child should be baptized in compassion?
Godparents/parents together: It is.

Priest baptizes child, saying: Child, I baptize you in the name of + the Father, and of + the Son, and of + the Holy Spirit. Amen.


G. Anointing with Chrism

Priest says: God the Father has freed you from delusion, given you new birth by water and the Holy Spirit, and welcomed you into his holy people. He now anoints you with the chrism of salvation. As Christ was anointed Priest, Prophet, and King, so may you live always as a member of his body, sharing everlasting life.
Everyone: Amen.
Priest anoints child with sacred chrism.

H. Clothing with White Garment

Priest says: Child, you have become a new creation, and have clothed yourself in Compassion. See in this white garment the outward sign of your dignity. With your family and friends to help you by word and example, awaken to that dignity that is already yours as a child of God.
Everyone: Amen.

I. Lighted Candle

[Priest hands Godfather unlit baptismal candle. As Godfather lights baptismal candle priest says:] Receive the light of Compassion. Mother and Father, Godmother and Godfather, this light is entrusted to you to be kept burning brightly. This child of yours has been enlightened by Compassion. He/She is to walk always as a child of the light. May he/she keep the flame of compassion alive in his/her heart.
Everyone: Amen.

J. Prayer over Ears and Mouth (Ephphetha)

Priest says as he touches the ears and mouth of child with his thumb:
The Lord has made the deaf hear and the mute speak. May he now touch your ears to receive his word and your mouth to proclaim the law of love and compassion, to the praise and glory of God the Father.
Everyone: Amen.


III. Blessings

Priest blesses mother now holding her child in her arms.
God the Father, through his Son, the Virgin Mary's Child, has brought joy to all Christian mothers, as they see the hope of eternal life shine on their children. May he bless the mother of this child. She now thanks God for the gift of her child. May she be ever one with her child as Christ prayed to the Father: May they all be one, as you are in me and I am in you that they may be on is us.
Everyone: Amen.

[Mother gives child to Father. Priest blesses father now holding child.] God is the giver of life, human and divine. May he bless the father of this child. He and his wife will be the first teachers of their child in the ways of compassion. May he and his wife be also the best of teachers, bearing witness to the law of compassionate love by what they say and do.
Everyone: Amen.

[Priest blesses the assembly of family and friends.] By God's gift, through water and the Holy Spirit, we are reborn to everlasting life. In his goodness, may he continue to pour out his blessings upon these sons and daughters of his. May he make them always, wherever they may be, compassionate members of his holy people. May he send his peace and compassion upon all who are gathered here, in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Everyone: Amen.

Priest: May almighty God, + the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit bless each and everyone of us.
Everyone: Amen.

Priest: Go in peace and serve the Lord, this Baptismal Ceremony is complete.
Everyone: Thanks be to God.













The Little Flock of St. John's Church

 celebrates the Sunday Eucharist

at Nancy & Ted's Place in Hayward, CA


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 Fr. Ariosto Coelho [650-952-9456].


Fr. Coelho is available to celebrate the Eucharist,

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based on Roman Catholic Rites

conducted in San Mateo, CA




Entrance Hymn

Priest: The grace and peace of God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ be with you.

All: And with your spirit.


Welcome and Prayer

Priest: O GOD, whose mercies cannot be numbered; Accept our prayers on behalf of the soul of your servant departed, and grant NN an entrance into the land of light and joy, in the fellowship of thy saints; through Jesus Christ our Lord.

All: Amen.




A reading from the book of Wisdom [4:7-14]

But the just man, though he die early, shall be at rest. For the age that is honorable comes not with the passing of time, nor can it be measured in terms of years. Rather, understanding is the hoary crown for men, and an unsullied life, the attainment of old age. He who pleased God was loved; he who lived among sinners was transported—snatched away, lest wickedness pervert his mind or deceit beguile his soul; for the witchery of paltry things obscures what is right and the whirl of desire transforms the innocent mind. Having become perfect in a short while, he reached the fullness of a long career; for his soul was pleasing to the LORD, therefore he sped him out of the midst of wickedness. But the people saw and did not understand, nor did they take this into account. The Word of the Lord

Lector: The word of the Lord. 

All: Thanks be to God.


Responsorial Psalm 103

R/. The Lord is kind and merciful

Merciful and gracious is the Lord, slow to anger, and abounding in kindness. Not according to our sins does he deal with us, nor does he requite us according to our crimes.

R/ As father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him. For he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust.

R/. But the kindness of the Lord is from eternity to eternity toward those who fear him, And his justice toward children’s children among those who keep his covenant and remember to fulfill his precepts.. R/.


Gospel Reading [John 14:1-6]

Jesus said to his disciples: “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You have faith in God; have faith also in me. In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places. If there were not, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back again and take you to myself, so that where I am you also may be. Where (I) am going you know the way.” Thomas said to him, “Master, we do not know where you are going; how can we know the way?” Jesus said to him, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”





Priest: Brothers and sisters, Jesus Christ is risen from the dead and sits at the right hand of the Father, where he intercedes for his Church. Confident that God hears the voices of those who trust in the Lord Jesus, we join our prayers to his.


1-In baptism NN received the light of Christ. Scatter the darkness now and lead him/her over the waters of death. Lord in your mercy:

All: Hear our prayer.

2-Our brother was nourished at the table of the savior. Welcome him into the halls of the heavenly banquet. Lord in your mercy:

All: Hear our prayer.

3-Many friends and members of our families have gone before us and await the kingdom. Grant them an everlasting home with your Son. Lord in your mercy:

All: Hear our prayer.

4-Many die by violence, war and famine each day. Show your mercy to those who suffer so unjustly these sins against your love, and gather them to the eternal kingdom of peace. Lord in your mercy:

All: Hear our prayer.

5-Those who trusted in the Lord now sleep in the Lord. Give refreshment, rest, and peace to all whose faith is known to you alone. Lord in your mercy:

All: Hear our prayer.

6-For the mourners: The friends and Family of NN seek comfort and consolation. Heal their pain and dispel the darkness and doubt that come from grief. Lord in your mercy:

All: Hear our prayer.

7-We are assembled here in faith and confidence to pray for our brother NN Strengthen our hope that we may love in the expectation of your Son’s coming. Lord in your mercy:

All: Hear our prayer.


Priest: Lord God, giver of peace and healer of souls, hear the prayers of the Redeemer, Jesus Christ, and the voices of your people, whose lives were purchased by the blood of the Lamb. Forgive the sins of all who sleep in Christ and grant them a place in your kingdom. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.


Lord's Prayer:

Priest: Let us pray with confidence to the Father in the words our Savior gave us.

All: Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, they will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. 



Prayer of Commendation
To you, O Lord, we commend the soul of NN your servant; in the sight of this world he is now dead; in your sight may he live forever. Forgive whatever sins he committed through human weakness and in your goodness grant him/her everlasting peace. We ask this through Christ our Lord.
R. Amen

Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord.
R. And let perpetual light shine upon NN.
May he rest in peace.

R. Amen.
May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
R. Amen.

Final Blessings
Bow your heads and pray for God’s blessing.
May the peace of God, which is beyond all understanding, keep your hearts and minds in the knowledge and love of God and of his Son, our Lord Jesus Christ.
R. Amen.
May almighty God bless you, the Father, and the Son, + and the Holy Spirit.
R. Amen.
Go in the peace of Christ.
R. Thanks be to God.


Concluding Hymn



[ By the graveside of Christopher Marston, a 55 year old friend, in Hayward, CA. April 2012]



For the Faithful who, along with Fr. Coelho,

participated in various rituals and events all over the world

"Very simply I define prayer as breathing with attention and intention.

As I breathe gracefully, gratefully, peacefully and playfully with the Holy Spirit

I surrender myself and everyone to God's Holy Breath - The Infinite Power of Love."




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